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Every great song writer has been scorned at some stage.
Every great comedian has been heckled.
Every great preacher has had listeners who thought they were nuts.
Every great entrepreneur has had their ideas mocked.
Every great parent has methods that other parents think are crazy.
Every great writer has had their ideas rejected.
I know that some people cringe when Valentine’s Day comes along, but for my wife, Karen and I, it has always been a very special day.
It’s not about the presents or cards, but about appreciating our relationship and this post is an opportunity for me to remember and share what I love about my wonderful wife.
Hopefully as you read through this list, you are reminded of the positive attributes of your spouse or partner and are inspired to tell let them know how you feel.
Anyway, here are 19 things that I love about my wife. “Why not 20?” I hear you ask. When you get to the bottom, you’ll find out: Read the rest of this entry »
Some people think that if they have more fascinating stories and anecdotes to tell, then they would be more interesting.
Or maybe if they drop a few names.
Or keep up with the latest trends.
Perhaps if they look more serious when they talk, or more enthusiastic.
But what I’ve found is that there is one way to become a more interesting person to those around you.
In this Knowledge Age that we’re living in, it seems that we’re always available.
We’re constantly accessible via email, Twitter, Facebook and our ever-present smart phones.
But we can’t be available to everyone at once. It’s just not possible, no matter how hard we try.
And we do try.
We try to pay attention to everyone, but if we’re distracted by one form of media, then we’re not giving someone else our full attention.
In 1992, Gary Chapman published the 5 Love Languages and it has since sold over 5 million copies and been translated into 40 languages.
As an experienced marriage counselor, he had noticed that everyone has a prefered way of receiving and experiencing love and wrote this book to assist couples to better understand themselves and their partners.
A few years ago Karen and I learned what our love languages were and it helped us to better connect and taught us how we could more effectively express our love for each other.
I’ve used them since with many others and it’s been a joy to see couples learn how to give and receive love more purposefully.
Here’s a list of the 5 love languages and a brief description of them each:
Late last year, we bought a coffee machine that came with a milk frother.
It’s become a favourite device of mine and we use it on a regular basis.
After I’ve made Karen and myself a cup of coffee, I have a decision to make.
Do I clean the milk frother now or do I wait until I need to use it again?
I can do it now, but it’s inconvenient and I want to drink my coffee.
Or I can wait until later, but it will be a little bit harder to clean the longer I leave it.
It’s much the same as apologising.
We all know that men and women are different.
One of the significant differences is what they need to hear to help them feel secure and valued in their relationships.
In his book, “WEIRD: Because Normal isn’t Working,” Craig Groeschel identifies this difference and outlines how husbands and wives can effectively encourage and build up their spouses.
In the interests of being gentlemanly, let’s start with ladies first.
This week the royal wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton takes place.
It’s a massive media event and promises to be one of the most glamourous occasions of the year.
Tens of thousands of dollars will be spent on the lavish celebration and every component of the day will be carefully planned.
These days, even for us commoners, there seems to be a lot of pressure to have a grand wedding, with a whole industry based on assisting people part with their money so that they can have the big fairytale wedding that they’ve always dreamed about.
My question today is, what’s more important, a fairytale wedding or a fairytale marriage?
Today is Valentine’s Day.
It’s a special day for Karen and I because it was on Valentine’s Day 16 years ago that we started dating.
We’ve certainly been blessed in our relationship and we have now been married for over 14 years and have three great kids.
As I think about relationships on this day I’m reminded of the story of the married man who went to see a marriage counselor.
“I don’t feel any love for my wife anymore.” he confessed to the therapist.
The therapist looked at him and asked, “When was the last time you acted in love for her?”
“It doesn’t really matter because I don’t feel anything for her anymore.”
Paulo Coelho tells the story about when the Ice Age came and porcupines had to find a way to survive.
At first they decided to group together to keep warm and protect one another.
Unfortunately, their spiky quills made it uncomfortable to stay in such close proximity, so they dispersed.
Of course, this left them exposed to the elements and they started to freeze to death until they realised that they needed to make a significant choice.