Hope is for suckers.
It’s asking to have your heart broken.
Optimists are only going to be disappointed.
A belief in a better future is naive and futile.
Nothing will change, the world is what it is, so we only need to look out for today and for ourselves.
Hope is for suckers.
I guess that makes me a sucker.
And I wouldn’t want it any other way.
If my heart gets broken, it means that I have loved.
If I am disappointed, I can pick myself up again.
I would rather be naive, than bitter and twisted.
Things can change, the world can be better and we can each make a positive, long-term contribution to the people around us.
Because I will always live with hope, even if others consider it foolish.
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September 29, 2020 at 4:41 am
Karen
Does the lack of hope have to mean you are bitter? I’ve been thinking a lot about this. I’m starting to think that hope is just another way of being let down. What if instead of hope you just did, you thought about what you wanted and the ways to do it and then just did it, and then if it worked out or not you had the belief of ok, it is what it is. Then you reevaluate and try a new way or a new path. Can you have the future you want without pining or hoping? Can’t you just make up your mind to try and then accept the outcome? After 2 years of unsuccessful IVF, a journey that was filled with hope, wishing, dreaming, staying positive, every cycle and transfer ended in heartbreak and disappointment. I didn’t just hope, I did. I did every shot, every test, every patch, every pill, every retrieval, every ultrasound, every consult, every transfer, even surgery, etc… but what if I had done all that and just had the attitude of it will be what it will be instead of letting myself hope and then feel gutted. Isn’t that a more buddhist way of being? I feel disappointed and heartbroken but I don’t feel bitter. I feel like now I’m on to plan B but what if I approach plan B with less hope and dreams and just more reality? I’m wondering if this way causes less pain but you are still moving towards a goal. Is it possible to move towards a goal with out hope being part of the equation? What are you thoughts on this? Thanks for you input in advance. Best, Karen
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September 29, 2020 at 9:55 pm
Darren Poke
Hi Karen, as I read your heartfelt comment I was reminded of the proverb that says, “hope deferred makes the heart sick.” There is something about missing out on the important things that we hope for that can be devastating. However, trying to avoid pain by not getting your hopes up just numbs your senses. Yes, it’s possible to move towards a goal without hope being a part of the equation, but I still choose to live with hope. For me, it makes life more wondrous and less grey. I hope that this helps, blessings, Darren
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