Sometimes, we have a tendency to just want to look and sound like everyone else, to wear the same clothes, listen to the same music and buy the same big-screen TV’s. As social beings, we are inclined to want to blend in with everyone else, conforming to their values and ideas.
Even those who say that they are anti-conformists often end up looking and sounding just like each other.
We feel that there is safety in numbers and if everyone else is acting a certain way then it must be OK, but I suspect that for us to maximise our true potential, we need to stand out from the crowd.
Here are ten reasons why I think we need to stand out from the crowd:
- The masses are mediocre and you’re capable of more.
- You can’t be a leader if no-one can tell you apart from those who are supposed to be following you.
- You are unique, with unique skills, experiences and ideas, so don’t waste that by being the same as everyone else.
- No-one ever achieved greatness or made a difference by conforming to the standard of the people around them.
- The longer you conform to the requirements of the crowd, the harder it is to break away when you need to.
- The masses are generally fearful and suspicious, but being bold and fearless is a much more rewarding and exhilarating way to live.
- Frankly, group-think makes you dumb. Don’t allow the mob to think for you. Read, reflect, debate and learn to express ideas that matter.
- We’ve got enough boring, uninteresting drones walking around, we need you to be different.
- The crowd has a slow heart-rate and low energy levels, standing out through excellence, innovation or optimism gives you passion for living.
- Great people make it happen, average people let it happen, but the crowd says, “What happened?”
And here are a couple of reasons not to stand out from the crowd:
- If you just crave attention to overcome your insecurities.
- If you’re just being unnecessarily controversial without actually adding anything of value.
I want to encourage you today to stand out from the crowd.
Just make sure that you do it for the right reasons.
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September 30, 2011 at 2:25 am
Linda/Positive Spin
I love no 10. It’s so true, Darren. I suppose the answer is to have a balance so that we stand out in a good way.
We’d all like to be remembered fior making a difference, but do we? Make a difference? Emmm. How do we know?
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September 30, 2011 at 9:24 am
Darren Poke
How do we know? That’s a great question.
The short answer would be that we can see noticeable improvements as a consequence of our work.
The longer answer may need to come in another post at some stage next week.
Thanks for the inspiring question.
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October 4, 2011 at 7:07 am
Debbie
Thank you for these great reasons to stand out. I am thinking about #7. I know someone who is teaching and this one of the things she is conscious about . . .helping her students develop critical reading and thinking skills. Not in a bad way, but in a way that doesn’t just accept everything that they read and hear.
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October 5, 2011 at 8:23 pm
Darren Poke
Wow Debbie, we need more teachers like that in the world.
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