So often we praise those who are considered go-getters.

Their initiative, drive and ambition is impressive and we aspire to be like them.

Terms like “take no prisoners” and “don’t let anyone stand in your way” come to mind as we try to get the most out life.

We want more money, more status, more recognition and we want it now.

Books are written about the subject and we buy them, hoping to find the secret to getting more.

But is that all there is to life?

Are you really successful if you’ve got yours, but it’s at the expense of others?

According to Winston Churchill, “We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.”

This statement is an encouragement to look out for the needs of others, not just our own.

To be a go-giver, not a go-getter.

Imagine the difference if instead of trying to obtain more for ourselves, we looked for opportunities to contribute to the needs of others?

If instead of bragging about our own achievements, we elevated others and endorsed their performances?

If instead of looking at what we could personally achieve with our talents, we looked at what value we could add to others through them?

If instead of asking why we don’t get more out of our relationships, we asked ourselves what more we could give to our marriages?

I’m not talking about being pushovers or having our rights violated, I’m talking about creating a world that was more outward focused than self-absorbed.

A world where contribution was valued more than wealth.

Where we take a risk to give and are surprised when we end up receiving more than we could have imagined.

A final thought to keep in mind:

After a while, people become suspicious of go-getters.  They know that they are only out for themselves and question their motives.

But people want to have go-givers around them.  They make influential leaders and great team-mates.  They build long-term relationships that benefit everyone.

Which one would you prefer to be?

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