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As we enter the New Year, goal planning via New Year’s Resolutions becomes a priority for a lot of people.
However, as many of us would be aware, there’s a big difference between goal setting and goal achieving.
There are too many people with unfulfilled dreams and goals, so the intention of this post is to give you four simple, easy to remember steps to assist you in achieving your goals.
Here are the four R’s of goal achievement:
One of the challenges when aspiring to excel at anything is focussing so much on your skills and abilities that you forget about your audience.
We expect others to change for us, to adapt to us and to meet our expectations instead of the other way around.
In the 1980’s Torvill and Dean turned ice dancing on its head when they began to combine excellent skating with vivid story-telling in their routines that people immediately responded to and instantly loved.
There were other skaters who probably had more technical ability, but people couldn’t relate to them and they had no audience.
2010 is almost over, so I thought that I would list the 10 most popular of the 200 posts that have been written here on the Better Life Coaching blog this year.
As an apprentice blogger, it’s been interesting for me to learn about what readers are either finding through search engines or passing on to their friends.
These aren’t necessarily the best posts that I’ve written, but they are the most popular. I’ve chosen not to include my “About Darren” page on the list, although that did rank higher than any of these posts.
The people have spoken so here’s my top 10 for 2010:
Most of us have been there.
You have a disagreement or there’s something that you really want at work, home or church.
You do anything to get your way.
Name calling, manipulation, pulling rank, bringing up the past, yelling, threatening, even intimidation.
And then you win…
…but have you really won?
One of the things that I love about this time of the year is receiving Christmas cards from friends and family that contain a letter with updates from their past year.
Karen and I have been saying that we should do this for years now without getting around to it, but I guess now that I’m blogging, I have no excuse.
2010 has certainly been an exciting (if tumultuous) period for us and I’m pleased to say that we have had a personally rewarding year.
Many years ago, three cedar trees sprouted in the once beautiful forests of Lebanon. Cedar trees take a long time to grow, and these trees spent whole centuries contemplating life, death, nature and mankind.
One fine day, they decided to talk about the future.
“After all I have seen,” Said the first tree, “I wish to be made into the throne of the most powerful king on earth.”
“I’d like to be part of something that turns Evil to Good forever.” Commented the second.
“Myself, I’d like it if every time someone looked at me, they thought of God.” Replied the third.
More time passed, and some woodcutters came. The cedars were felled, and a ship carried them far away.
Over the years, I have conducted many career workshops and have asked the question, “How many people here have their resume up-to-date?”
Generally, only about 10% of participants indicate that their resume is ready for action.
This has led me to wonder when the best time to update your resume is.
Lots of people have excuses for not doing great things.
One guy was blind and one was deaf.
One guy was sacked from the company that he built from scratch.
One guy was sent home from school as a young child and his parents were told that he had a learning difficulty and was unteachable.
One guy was dyslexic and another suffered from severe motor neurone disease.
They are each reasonable excuses for not amounting to anything.
What’s your excuse?
Just imagine travelling through the desert.
It’s stinking hot and dry. The sun is almost unbearable as its rays beat mercilessly down upon your head.
And then in the distance, you see signs of life.
You focus all of your energy on your goal and drag yourself towards your desired destination.
And then you get there, only to find nothing but sand.
What you thought was an oasis was a mirage.
What do you do next?
Paulo Coelho tells the story about when the Ice Age came and porcupines had to find a way to survive.
At first they decided to group together to keep warm and protect one another.
Unfortunately, their spiky quills made it uncomfortable to stay in such close proximity, so they dispersed.
Of course, this left them exposed to the elements and they started to freeze to death until they realised that they needed to make a significant choice.