No matter how much you want to, you can’t force everything.
You can’t force people to agree with you.
You can’t force someone to see things from your perspective.
You can’t force people to share your values.
You can’t force your boss to give you a promotion.
You can’t force someone to believe in God.
So what do you do?
Sit in silence, believing that you can’t make a difference?
Or instead of trying to force people, do you find ways to influence, motivate, encourage and inspire them.
Of course, you won’t be able to change everyone’s viewpoint.
But you could change one.
If you’re a leader, you’re at your least effective when you try to force people to do things your way.
And at your most effective when you are able to effectively influence, motivate, encourage and inspire your team.
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January 9, 2013 at 7:15 pm
Debbie
Thank you for encouraging us to influence and not force-fluence! God bless you, Coach D!
January 9, 2013 at 7:39 pm
Darren Poke
Thanks Debbie, force-fluence, I like it.
January 9, 2013 at 9:29 pm
Lynne Quintana
What a good and inspiring post to share. It is better to be a good model to everyone and be a silent worker to motivate and inspire people.
January 10, 2013 at 6:00 pm
Darren Poke
Thanks Lynne
March 3, 2013 at 12:51 am
Meredith Haberfeld
The topic of conversation is a great one for life coaching. We need to have an attitude of peak performance, if we expect good results in our lives. Its a simple concept, and a cliche, but we get out of life, exactly what we put into it.